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Anger

It is just childish pouting to insist you have the right to be angry. Of course you do! Anger is legally permitted in the United States. The crucial issue is - is it to your advantage to feel angry? Will you or the world really benefit from your rage?

Feeling Good 197:1

Nothing is wrong with the emotion of anger per se. What is damaging is how we express our anger - for example, in violent actions against another person, causing injury to property, and so forth. What is also damaging is hanging on to anger and allowing it to build up inside us until we live in continual rage.

Deadly Emotions 52:2

Never was Jesus more divine that at those moments when He was expressing white-hot anger. many times, perfect love and anger go hand in hand; indeed, the anger is the result of perfect love.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 105:1

Anger is a divinely implanted emotion, part of God's image in the human personality, and is to be used for constructive purposes.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 106:2

Character

As we dwell on the attributes of Christ, we will become like Him, and in Him we can meet a conquered devil and his temptations victoriously. On the other hand, if we are constantly talking about the devil, we unconsciously begin to take on his attributes.

The ABC's of Bible Prayer 201:1

Compatibility

Love and compatibility seem to be a continuum in my life. At one extreme, there is compatibility in the form of shared goals and similar lifestyles, but devoid of that unexplainable emotion that makes us human - love. At the other extreme is the undeniable desire of the heart that overwhelms logical reasoning and rational fears. What is the ideal balance between these extremes, or is it even possible to have the best of both in a relationship?

Joseph Hermens

Conflict

Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.

Proverbs 17:14

Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down.

Proverbs 26:20

Other people have free will, and often think and act in ways that aren't to your liking. All of your insistence that they must fall in line with your desires and wishes will not produce this result. The opposite is more often true. Your attempts to coerce and manipulate people with angry demands most often will alienate and polarize them and make them much less likely to want to please you. This is because other people don't like being controlled or dominated any more than you do. Your anger will simply limit the creative possibilities for problem solving.

Feeling Good 160:1

Empathy is the ability to comprehend with accuracy the precise thoughts and motivations of other people in such a way that they would say, "Yes, that is exactly where I'm coming from!" When you have this extraordinary knowledge, you will understand and accept without anger why others act as they do even though their actions might not be to your liking.

Feeling Good 185:2

In fact, it is your urge to help complainers that maintains the monotonous interaction. Paradoxically, when you agree with their pessimistic whining, they quickly run out of steam.

Feeling Good 223:2

The best antidote for an offense against us is to respond by committing an act of benevolence or generosity toward someone else. In doing so, you are choosing to rent out more space in your heart to love that to unforgiveness, hate, anger, bitterness, or any other toxic emotion.

Deadly Emotions 135:6

You may forgive but find the other person unwilling to reconcile. If that happens, know that you have done your part. Leave behind the toxic emotions between yo uand that person. Trust God to do His work in the other person's life, in His timing, and using His methods.

Deadly Emotions 167:2

I follow the instruction of Matthew 5:44 where it tells me to love my enemy. I make a list of one or more of the good qualities of the one what is being mean and unkind to me. You will be amazed at what happens when you start doing that.

The ABC's of Bible Prayer 186:1

Dating

My "Essential" list [for a mate] now has one thing on it: "Must be someone who would enhance my walk with God and allow us to have a more effective ministry together than we have separately."

Common Mistakes Singles Make 52:3

Here's what I recommend about dating:

1. Don't date during high school years. Spend lots of time in group activities, get to know many of the opposite sex in various settings, and observe carefully the character and principles you see in these people. Develop your own personality, gifts, and skills during these years. Get to know God and get to know yourself, but avoid the pain and potential danger of dating. You're too young and it's too rife with pitfalls.

2. Begin to develop a clear idea of the kind of man/woman you want to find for a life's partner. Develop a clear statement of your standards, and then make sure you're becoming the kind of woman/man that person would want!

3. Continue, through college and beyond, to interact with those of the opposite sex in group settings. Have long (not intimate) conversations with those of the opposite sex with whom you are friends. Get to know how they think. Develop friendships with those who are worthy friends.

4. When you are attracted to an individual person, start a prayer vigil about your feelings. Ask God to take control of your emotions. Be aware of your vulnerability. Make sure that person meets the standards established by God's Word and you.

5. If the attraction continues on both parts, spend some one-on-one time but not in secluded settings. Have quiet conversations on the phone or on the sidelines in a group setting, but never allow the two of you to be alone in a setting that would offer opportunities for physical involvement (cars, homes, etc). restaurants are good places for long conversations.

6. Only when the two of you are ready for a lifetime commitment and are assured that this is God's plan for you (through lots of time in prayer together and separately, plus advice from trusted adults in your life), then allow some physical contact - hand holding, light kisses. Don't put yourself in situations where you can be tempted for intimate physical relations. You are not in control of your hormones at this point. Don't trust them.

7. Get a ring and a date, and get married, and then go for it, with abandonment, freedom, no guilt, and great enjoyment.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 90:4

Deadly Emotions

Certain emotional states are much more damaging than others. Extreme joy and extreme sorrow both exert physical stress. But intense grief is far more damaging than intense joy! We have something of a stress gauge in our bodies. The emotions that are most damaging are rage, unforgiveness, depression, anger, worry, frustration, fear, grief, and guilt.

Deadly Emotions 20:1

Medical research is showing more and more that there may be a mind-body connection to most diseases and aliments, not just a few.

Psychiatric diseases that have been linked to long-term stress include generalized anxiety disorder, panic attacks, post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorder, as well as other more rare psychiatric diseases.

Deadly Emotions 25:1-2

If a person keeps stuffing toxic emotions year after year, the day will come when those buried emotions come pouring out.

The end of all stress-hormone addictions isn't beautiful and it isn't fun. The result is a state of bad health marked by a weakened immune system, heart problems, and premature aging.

Deadly Emotions 31:1-2

Getting charged up at an exciting athletic event or watching an action-packed movie may be fun for the moment. But the internalization of being continually charged up can put a person on the fast track to total burnout. Remember always: the heart, nervous system, and various other organs of the body respond to positive stress events in exactly the same way they respond to negative stress events.

Deadly Emotions 31:6

If you are living your life in what seems like a constant state of hurry or emergency, you may very well be addicted to your own stress hormones. You may feel good right now as you burn the candle at both ends, but remember that eventually those two burning ends will meet each other.

Deadly Emotions 32:3

"Hardness of heart" is not just a euphemism for stubbornness or a rigid attitude. It is a physical state of the heart that occurs from severe atherosclerosis. Those who have this condition usually suffer from angina, which is chest pain with physical exertion. A heart hardened by years of emotional pain and the resulting ravaging effects of stress hormones is a heart that experiences physical pain.

Deadly Emotions 46

The old adage "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" simply isn't true. Words can have a devastating emotional impact on a person.

Deadly Emotions 53:1

When we neglect what our heart is trying to say to us and listen only to our brain we suffer the dangerous consequences of the "neglected heart syndrome" and the health effect of abuse, deprivation, and exploitation of the sensitive side of who you are. Living in an increasingly heartless world only further assaults the heart. Yet, tuning in to our own hearts we could begin to experience the child within us, that most sensitive inner self that has the ability to teach us the joy of being alive.

Paul Pearsall

To be aware of your own emotional state, however, you must ask yourself, "How do I make others feel?"

Deadly Emotions 90

Phantom fears - those that aren't rooted in reality - are just as real to the body as genuine danger.

Deadly Emotions 95:2

Faith is the ultimate cure for fear. Faith is believing that God is in charge of all things and that we can rely on Him to do what is eternally best for each of us. I encourage you strongly: Chose to believe that God is at work in your life and in the lives of those around you. Choose to believe that God is in control of all situations and all circumstances. Faith is always a choice - one that I encourage you to make daily!

Deadly Emotions 101:8

Reasons do not produce bitterness. Attitudes do.

Deadly Emotions 118:1

Although at present these is no clearly established scientific link between disease and the emotions of resentment, bitterness, and guilt, these emotions nearly always are very closely linked to anger, anxiety, and depression. The latter three are strongly linked to disease. They provoke a strong stress response. I am thoroughly convinced that resentment and bitterness are dimensions of anger: they are smoldering, lingering ashes of rage and ongoing hostility. I am also thoroughly convinced that much anxiety and depression are rooted in ongoing guilt for which a person has never received genuine forgiveness.

Deadly Emotions 119:3

Just as love is the most powerful positive emotion, hatred is the most powerful negative one. Resentment, bitterness, and anger are the dark pathways to this harmful passion.

Deadly Emotions 123:2

Bitterness only hurts one's self. If you hate, you will give them your heart and mind. Don't give those two things away.

Nelson Mandela

No matter what you may have been through, even unspeakable pain, you are still in control of your identity. No event can change you on the inside unless you allow it to do so. No person can cause you to respond in a particular way on the inside unless you choose to react that way. The freedom to forge your own opinions, ideas, attitudes, and choices rests solely and uniquely with you.

Deadly Emotions 140:3

The longer I live the more convinced I become that life is 10 percent what happens to us and 90 percent how we respond to it. I believe the single most significant decision I can make on a day-to-day basis is my choice of attitude.

Charles Swindoll

The ultimate "real you" is a composite of what your heart tells your brain, your brain tells your heart, and your will decides to believe, say, and do.

Deadly Emotions 142:5

The strongest biological oscillator in the body is the heart. It acts in a way similar to Huygen's clocks. The heart has the ability to pull every other bodily system into its own rhythm, whatever that may be. When the heart is at peace or filled with love, it communicates harmony to the entire body. And conversely, when toxic emotions have triggered the heart to beat in an irregular way, to beat harder, or to beat faster, the heart communicates the very opposite of peace to the other organs of the body.

Deadly Emotions 148:3

Most people yearn for others to acknowledge and recognise the good job that they are doing. It is true that people will work harder for recognition than for money.

Deadly Emotions 150:1

In failing to forgive, your really are hurting only yourself. Unforgiveness rarely hurts the person who offended you. Most of the people you are unwilling to forgive don't even realize you are upset with them. Many people are so rude or uncaring that they don't know when they offend others.

Deadly Emotions 170:5

Once we have confessed our sins to God and received His forgiveness, we should press toward the goal that lies ahead. This pressing on includes an active intentional act of goal-setting and of looking to the future with hope, fully believing, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" (Phil. 4:13).

Deadly Emotions 176:5

A smile costs nothing, but gives much. It enriches those who give it. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.

None is so rich or mighty that he can get along without it, and none is so poor but that he cannot be made richer by it

A smile creates happiness in the home, promotes good will in business, and is the cornerstone of friendship. It can perk up the weary, bring cheer to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad, and is nature's best antidote for trouble.

Yet, it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away.

When people are too tired to give you a smile, give them one of yours. no one needs a smile so much as he who has none to give.

Lislie Gibson

The person who trades in a long-term goal on short-term ease or happiness tends to end up in a position he hates. Stick with the tougher, longer, harder pursuit that is truly rooted in your talents and desires. In the end, you'll find the joy you desired.

Deadly Emotions 187:2

Walking in love is a choice. Acting on that choice takes effort. Love means choosing to turn yourself inside out for others, to turn your thinking upside down from the way the vast majority of people in the world think, and to go radically against what many people perceive to be basic human nature and pursue instead the nature of God. making this choice of love sometimes means you have to suffer.

Deadly Emotions 217:5

Walking in love requires not only an intentional, initial choice, but an ongoing intentional choice. Loving as God loves requires practice, practice, practice. So begin to practice patience and kindness. Practice not being jealous, proud, rude, or selfish.

Deadly Emotions 218:3

Death

[In reference to a patient who died] Although his death was profoundly sad for the family and for me, there was a tenderness and a beauty to the experience that I will never forget. The sense of loss and the weeping reminded me - "You can love. You can care." This made the grief an elevating experience that was entirely devoid of pain or suffering for me.

Feeling Good 256:2

Depression

Either depression or sadness can develop after a loss or a failure in your efforts to reach a goal of great personal importance. Sadness comes, however, without distortion. It involves a flow of feeling and therefore has a time limit. It never involves a lessening of your self-esteem. Depression is frozen - it tends to persist or recur indefinitely, and always involves loss of self-esteem.

Feeling Good 232:2

It has no adaptive or positive function whatsoever, and represents one of the worst forms of suffering. Its only redeeming value is the growth you experience when you recover from it.

Feeling Good 232:3

The attitude that depression is necessary strikes me as destructive, inhuman, and victimizing.

Feeling Good 233:1

[In reference to people who think that depression is a result of being a failure] So how can you possibly say that depression is due to the fact that they are failures? Seems to me that it's more the other way around - that the failure is due to the depression.

Feeling Good 248:3

Depression, like the plague, is no respecter of status

Feeling Good 331

Suffering and diversity may build character, but nothing breaks down the spirit like the slow passing of time without purpose.

Joseph Hermens

Depression is not something that only ungodly people experience. Some seem to believe that depression is inevitably linked with sin. Unconfessed and unrepented-of sin may cause depression at times, but sin does not cause all depression. God's people are just as prone to depression as those who don't know the Lord.

Deadly Emotions 70:6

Whether or not you're alone, you can still be lonely. Loneliness is an attitude; aloneness is a circumstance.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 54:1

Satan tries to turn temperamental depression into spiritual depression. Satan always wants to turn emotional depression into spiritual defeat.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 118

Depression Recovery

A simple children's story lesson - when we have moments when we "crash," we just need to get up, look to Jesus, and keep going.

Unknown

Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it.

Unknown

Should Removal Techniques. The point of this is to make you aware that you are being critical of yourself unnecessarily. Since you are ultimately making your own rules, once you decide that a rule is not useful you can revise it or get rid of it.

Feeling Good 208:3

When I think of the most godly people I know, I see that their lives have not been one happy event after another, with everything fulfilling and exciting. But through all their circumstances, happy or not, they have had peace and joy and abiding contentment. When you have these three things, nothing else really matters.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 64:4

We find fulfillment when we stop looking for it and concentrate instead on knowing God.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 64:5

I personally spent many years fighting myself, trying to be someone else, battling my nervous, high-strung temperament, always feeling a bit angry about that, and trying to be someone else. The turning point came when I could accept myself as I am.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 118:3

When you surrender your anger and oversensitivity to injustice and unfairness, you won't have trouble with self-pity, and your depressions will lessen immediately.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 127:3

Discipline

Reward the desired behavior instead of punishing the undesired behavior. Punishment causes aversion and resentment and brings about alienation and avoidance.

Feeling Good 178:2

I'm still looking for someone who wants to live an ordinary life in an extraordinary way.

Joseph Hermens

He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding.

Proverbs 15:32

Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the grave, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom.

Ecclesiastes 9:10

Barak and I were raised with so many of the same values. Like you work hard for what you want in life. That your word is your bond - you do what you say you are going to do. That you treat people with dignity and respect even if you don't know them and even if you don't agree with them. Barack and I set out to build lives guided by these values and to pass them on to the next generation.

Michelle Obama, DNC

The only limit to the height of your achievements is the reach of your dreams and your willingness to work hard for them.

Michelle Obama, DNC

Another key element in fighting back is to develop some accountability for ourselves. Since it doesn't come naturally through a marriage partner, perhaps we have to put our own accountability structures in place. That's where a pastor, a good friend, a small group, or a family member can be so valuable to us.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 138:3

Faith

If you are going to worry, don't pray; if you are going to pray, don't worry.

Unknown

Many are the plans in a man's heart, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails.

Proverbs 19:21

To talk about our failings means that we become weaker. Talk about God's power, however, and faith will increase. It is a law that has proven itself over and over.

The ABC's of Bible Prayer 33:1

So I went to prayer to God. While I was at prayer, I uttered words to this effect: "Lord, Satan tells me that neither Your mercy nor Christ's blood is sufficient to save my soul. Lord, shall I honor You most by believing You will and can, or him, but believing You neither will nor can? Lord, I would honor You by believing You will and Can."

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 116:6

Family

Humanistic thinking and psychological philosophies of the past several decades have led people to blame their parents and family situations for every problem they face. Counselors have frequently advised people to break relationships with family members so they can "find themselves" and "be their own person." The exaggerated focus on individual rights and freedoms has led us to mistreat close family ties, and that is very destructive because God has made us to be a part of a family, and nothing can replace our family relationships.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 117:2

Feelings

There are no such things as bad feelings and good feelings. Feelings are just feelings. They are consequences of a whole range of things that come out of your personality. No emotions are in themselves sinful. What you do with them will determine whether they are wrong or right. How you handle them will determine whether they lead you to righteousness or to sinfulness. The emotions themselves are a very important part of your God-given personality equipment.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 104:4

Finances

There should be a law that says you can't buy things you don't need with money you don't have; it seems like this would be the first step to straiting out or rediculous economy.

Joseph Hermens

Wealth that comes quickly goeth the same way. Wealth that stayeth to give enjoyment and satisfaction to its owner comes gradually.

The Richest Man in Babylon

Better a little caution than a great regret.

The Richest Man in Babylon

All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.

Proverbs 14:23

When God gives us earthly money, He's looking to see how well we use it for eternal, heavenly purposes. When we use our money for His glory, we are storing up treasures in heaven.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 123:3

Forgiveness

"Sinner, you think that because of your sins and infirmities I cannot save your soul; but behold, my Son is by Me, and upon Him I look, and not on you, and shall deal with you according to My pleasure with Him." At this I was greatly enlightened in my mind and made to understand that God could justify a sinner at any time; it was but His looking upon Christ and imputing His benefits to us, and the work was forthwith done.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 149

Fulfillment

We find fulfillment when we stop looking for it and concentrate instead on knowing God.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 64:5

God's Blessings

Our understanding of God is warped beyond belief, and that always gets us into trouble. The more we know who God is - not who we think He is or who we want Him to be, but who He is as defined in the Bible - the less we'll see Him as our Santa Claus in the Sky. We were created for God's purposes, not the other way around, and He alone is sovereign.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 137:5

God's Love

In his restless youth the prodigal looked upon his father as stern and severe. How different his conception of him now! So those who are deceived by Satan look upon God as hard and exacting. They regard Him as watching to denounce and condemn, as unwilling to receive the sinner so long as there is a legal excuse for not helping to him. His law they regard as a restriction upon men's happiness, a burdensome yoke from which they are glad to escape. But he whose eyes hare been opened by the love of Christ will behold God as full of compassion. He does not appear as a tyrannical, relentless being, but as a father longing to embrace his repenting son.

A Call to Stand Apart 13:5

Why do we waste time with unnecessary, over-used phrases like, "May God add special meaning to the reading of His Word," and attempt to beautify reality with the use of flowery language like, "The fields are ripe for the harvest?" Why can't we just say it how it is? Real people are hurting, they need God's Word; it is the truth that can lift them above the pain in this world.

Joseph Hermens

I concluded a little grace, a little love, a little of the true fear of God, is better than all gifts. I am fully convinced that it is possible for souls, who can scarcely give a man an answer but with great confusion as to method, to have a thousand times more grace and so be more in the love and favor of the Lord, than some who by the virtue of the gift of knowledge can deliver themselves like angels.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 171:1

Guilt

What is the point of abusing yourself with guilt in the first place? If you did make a mistake and act in a hurtful way, your guilt won't reverse your blunder in some magical manner.

Feeling Good 205

Change and learning occur most readily when you (a) recognize that an arror has occurred and (b) develop a strategy for correcting the problem. An attitude of self-love and relaxation facilitates this, whereas guilt often interferes.

Feeling Good 206:1

Thus, what is called for when you do goof up is a process of recognition, learning, and change. Does guilt help you with any of these? I don't believe it does. Rather than facilitating your recognition of your error, guilt engages you in a coverup operation. You want to close your ears to any criticism. You can't bear to be in the wrong because it feels so terrible. This is why guilt is counterproductive.

Feeling Good 206:3

I would lie under great guilt for sin, even crushed to the ground with the weight of it, and then the Lord would show me the death of Christ. Yes, He so sprinkled my conscience with His blood that I would find, even before I was aware, that in this conscience, where but just now did reign and rage the law, even there would rest and abide the peace and love of God throught Christ.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 72:2

Health

What few people realize is that cancer cells are common in all people. Most of us, however, have healthy immune systems that efficiently and powerfully destroy these dangerous cells. The natural "killer" cells of the immune system attack cancer cells before they can form a tumor.

Deadly Emotions 28:1

Holy Spirit

In our own strength, it is impossible to accomplish what otherwise might be accomplished were we baptized with the Holy Spirit.

The ABC's of Bible Prayer 162:2

The Holy Spirit will either harden or soften hearts, according to the choice of the individual. Those who receive Him, He will soften and guide them into all truth.

The ABC's of Bible Prayer 174:1

Hope

As I look around me I see so much pain, so much hurt, and so much unhappiness; so with eyes wide open, I look up to the only One who can heal this broken world, one heart at a time.

Joseph Hermens

Intellectual Freedom

In this country intellectual cowardice is the worst enemy a writer or journalist has to face, and that fact does not seem to me to have had the discussion it deserves

Preface to Animal Farm 1:2

Unpopular ideas can be silenced, and inconvenient facts kept dark, without the need for any official ban...Anyone who challenges the prevailing orthodoxy finds himself silenced with surprising effectiveness. A genuinely unfashionable opinion is almost never given a fair hearing, either in the popular press or in the highbrow periodicals.

Preface to Animal Farm 1:3

There always must be, or at any rate there always will be, some degree of censorship, so long as organized societies endure. But freedom, as Rosa Luxembourg said, is 'freedom for the other fellow'. The same principle is contained in the famous words of Voltaire: 'I detest what you say; I will defend to the death your right to say it'. If the intellectual liberty which without a doubt has been one of the distinguishing marks of western civilization means anything at all, it means that everyone shall have the right to say and to print what he believes to be the truth, provided only that it does not harm the rest of the community in some quite unmistakable way.

Preface to Animal Farm 5

Judgement

God is up for judgement, God is on trial, God is being accused before the universe as unfair, unjust, and unreasonable. The "accuser of the brethren" is also the accuser of God and has been hurling his accusations at the God of the universe for centuries. In order for God to be vindicated, in order for the entire universe, including us, to see that God is indeed a God of love and justice, in order to make the universe forever safe from sin and its results, the judgment must take place.

Uncommon Ground 38:1

Jesus said to the woman dragged to Him, "I don't condemn you." See John 8:2-11. There you have justification. Then He added, "Go, and sin no more." There you have sanctification.

Uncommon Ground 74:5

Liberty

If one loves democracy, the argument runs, one must crush its enemies by no matter what means. And who are its enemies? It always appears that they are not only those who attack it openly and consciously, but those who 'objectively' endanger it by spreading mistaken doctrines. In other words, defending democracy involves destroying all independence of thought.

These people don't see that if you encourage totalitarian methods, the time may

come when they will be used against you instead of for you. Make a habit of

imprisoning Fascists without trial, and perhaps the process won't stop at Fascists.

Preface to Animal Farm 5:1

Love

Love needs definition. The law of God is friendly because it describes what real love is all about. Without it we are like ships without a sail or rudder or compass.

Uncommon Ground 50:9

Love is not a feeling; it is a way of behaving. Feelings follow behavior; therefore, loving feelings follow loving behavior. Loving actions on my part not only bring me positive feelings about myself, but, if spoken in the love language of the other person, they will stimulate positive feelings inside them.

The Five Love Languages for Singles 235:1

Love addiction

The demand or need for love before you can feel happy is called "dependency." Dependency means that you are unable to assume responsibility for you emotional life.

Feeling Good 311:2

People who have found happiness within themselves are usually the most desirable to members of the opposite sex and become like magnets because they are at peace and generate a sense of joy.

Feeling Good 312:2

There is a difference between wanting and needing something. Oxygen is a need, but love is a want. I repeat: LOVE IS NOT AN ADULT HUMAN NEED! It's okay to want a loving relationship with another human being. There is nothing wrong with that. It is a delicious pleasure to be involved in a good relationship with someone you love. But you do not need that external approval, love, or attention in order to survive or to experience maximal levels of happiness.

Feeling Good 322:1

Marriage

Many married people fail to allow God to do for them what only He can do. Then they ask other human beings, their spouses, to do what they cannot possibly do. If they work at it, men make good husbands, and women make good wives. But they make lousy gods. They're not meant for that. And all those wonderful promises that people make on their wedding day - "I promise to love, care for you, cherish you, through all the circumstances and vicissitudes of life" - these are possible only when a heart is secure in God's love, grace, and care. Only a forgiven and graced soul can keep such promises.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 32:2

You may need to forgive your marriage partner for past mistakes. But to forgive is also a present extension of grace to the person himself. Forgive your partner for just being the way he or she is - unable to meet some of your needs. Some of the most serious marital depressions arise when a husband or a wife thinks, "But, God, I have a right to feel this way! I ought to feel this way because she/he..." And when we say we have a right to feel cheated and resentful and betrayed, we are on the road to depression!

Healing for Damaged Emotions 126:3

Maturity

A sign of maturity is the ability to recognize and acknowledge your feelings and, without discounting them, put them in their proper place when it comes to decision making.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 69:4

Ministry

Ministry-driven Sabbath schools will bring healing to churches ripped apart by name-calling and divisive factions.

Reinvent Your Sabbath School 67:5

Have you ever noticed how bickering and infighting stop when people work together for something important?

Reinvent Your Sabbath School 67:6

We must fight against becoming insulated from the world instead of inoculated to enter the world.

Reinvent Your Sabbath School 68:4

Miracles

The man who makes the working of miracles the test of his faith will find that Satan can, through a species of deceptions, perform wonders that will appear to be genuine miracles.

Selected Messages book 2 52

Morality

The time for justice, the time for equality, is always right now.

The Great Debaters

Patience

The saints are going to be known for their patience, and usually we think of patience in terms of being patient with one another. Let's allow for the possibility that the saints are also going to be patient with themselves. They will not give up in discouragement when it seems that the progress in their lives is slow, because God knows what He is working with and has given assurance...so let's be as patient with ourselves as God is.

Uncommon Ground 53:2

Perfectionism

You're not expected to be perfect. Just acknowledge your error and take whatever steps you can to correct it. It sounds simple (and it is!), but it may take some effort to transform this insight into an emotional reality.

Feeling Good

Then there's another kind [damaged emotions], that for want of a better term, I call the perfectionist complex. This is the inner feeling that says, "I can never quite achieve. I never do anything well enough. I can't please myself, others, or God." This kind of a person is always groping, striving, usually feeling guilty, driven by inner oughts and shoulds. "I ought to be able to do this. I should be able to do that. I must be a little bit better." He's ever climbing, but never reaching.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 15:1

Oh, how the perfectionist complex defeats people in the Christian life! And how it even keeps people out of the kingdom!

Healing for Damaged Emotions 16:4

Perfectionism is a counterfeit for Christian perfection, holiness, sanctification, or the Spirit-filled life. Instead of making us holy persons and integrated personalities - that is, whole persons in Christ - perfectionism leaves us spiritual Pharisees and emotional neurotics.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 77:3

Persecution

Now these slanders, with the others, I glory in, because they are but slanders, foolish or scheming lies and falsehoods cast upon me by the devil and his seed; and should I not be dealt with thus wickedly by the world, I should lack one of the signs of a saint and a child of God.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 174:1

I never knew what it was for God to stand by me at all times and at every offer of Satan to afflict me, as I have found Him since I came in to this place [prison], for as fears have presented themselves, so have supports and encouragements. Yes, when I have been started, even as it were at nothing else but my shadow, yet God being very tender to me, has not suffered me to be molested, but would with one Scripture or another strengthen me against all.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 181:1

I have often said that were it lawful, I would pray for greater trouble for the greater comfort's sake.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 182

Prayer

Show me an individual who is effective in public, and I will show you an individual who is effective in private. Find a person of deep conviction who is genuinely impacting his society, and you'll inevitably find a person who spends time alone with God.

Howard Hendricks

Prophecy

Some of these persons have exercises which they call gifts and say that the Lord has placed them in the church. They have an unmeaning gibberish which they call the unknown tongue, which is unknown not only by man but by the Lord and all heaven. Such gifts are manufactured by men and women, aided by the great deceiver. Fanaticism, false excitement, false talking in tongues, and noisy exercises have been considered gifts which God has placed in the church. Some have been deceived here.

Testimonies for the Church, vol. 1 412

Prudence

It is not good to have zeal without knowledge, nor to be hasty and miss the way.

Proverbs 19:2

Purpose

Now all has been heard; here is the conclusion of the matter: Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man.

Ecclesiastes 12:13

"When I say to the wicked, 'You shall surely die,' and you give him no warning, nor speak to warn the wicked from his wicked way, to save his life, that same wicked man shall die in his iniquity; but his blood I will require at your hand. Yet, if you warn the wicked, and he does not turn from his wickedness, nor from his wicked way, he shall die in his iniquity; but you have delivered your soul."

Ezekiel 3:18-19

Ratical

Radical: The literal meaning of "radical" is "to the root," which is where Jesus always moved. Whether with a Samaritan woman at a well or a learned Pharisee under cover of night, Jesus cut to the root to connect directly with real needs. He was never an extremist; His life was always graciously radical.

Reinvent Your Sabbath School 67:2

Righteousness (God's Law)

Obedience to law can never produce righteousness. It is righteousness that produces obedience.

Uncommon Ground 57:4

We can look at the law of God and join David, Solomon, and Paul in recognizing the beauty of the law. Not a single improvement can be made, except for one - to see those Ten Commandments made up into a life.

Uncommon Ground 62:3

If you don't have rules, you don't have a game. And if you don't understand the rules of life, you don't have a happy person. The Ten Commandments clearly, concisely and yet comprehensively state God's love for people He wants to be secure and happy.

Uncommon Ground 64:3

I realize that your personal, private life with God, your devotional experience day by day, can for you become a works trip. It takes a thief to know a thief. But there's one thing I don't do when it becomes a works trip. I don't scrap it for that reason. I go to my knees and ask God to help me with the problem.

Uncommon Ground 73:5

Once you become a Christian, it makes a difference in you. Paul says, "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17).

Common Mistakes Singles Make 142:4

As disciples of Jesus Christ, we must let everything in our lives take second place to our commitment to Him.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 149:3

I saw that it was not my good frame of heart that made my righteousness better, nor yet my bad frame that made my righteousness worse, for my righteousness was Jesus Christ Himself, "the same yesterday, today, and forever" (Hebrews 13:8).

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 133:1

Sadness

Better to go to the house of mourning

Than to go to the house of feasting,

For that is the end of all men;

And the living will take it to heart.

Sorrow is better than laughter,

For by a sad countenance the heart is made better.

The heart of the wise is the house of mourning,

But the heart of fools is the bouse of mirth.

Ecclesiastes 7:2-4

Satan

[In reference to making people feel bad about not knowing Bible facts] "This is of the devil." Sometimes we use force and pressure to accomplish what appears to be religious purposes. How subtle.

Common Ground 78:1

Now, I respect the devil. I hope you will interpret that word correctly. I respect him in the sense that I know he's bigger and more powerful than I am. I am not big enough to handle him; I am not cunning enough to outwit him. But I have learned that the devil, in spite of his rebellion, has a healthy respect for Jesus Christ. We have no reason to fear as long as we are in the presence of Jesus and under His protection.

Common Ground 78:3

Christ's followers are to look upon Satan as a conquered foe. Upon the cross Jesus gained the victory for them. The omnipotent power of the Holy Spirit is the defense of every contrite soul. Not one that in penitence and faith claims His protection will Christ permit to pass under the enemy's power.

Common Ground 79:2

When the devil is finally brought to ashes, I see the God of heaven, the Father of love, convulsed in sobs of anguish. God is the one who created Lucifer, and a son gone bad is a son still.

I see the angels stop their singing, as they begin to weep along with God. perhaps we will weep too. Because, though it will be good news when he is gone, it is still bad news that he has to go.

Common Ground 81:2

Scripture

God's Spirit inspired the writing; God's Spirit needs to inspire the reading. We're also told that spiritual things are "spiritually discerned." That might seem like common sense, but most people try to read the Bible with their own feelings as the interpreter. They want the Bible to toll them what they want to hear; they want it to say what they want it to say. That won't work - imposing ourselves on what we read rather than allowing God's Spirit to impose on us what we need to understand.

The Ultimate Resource 19

You must approach the Word of God with a heart willing to obey its precepts...Get your heart right with God, and your mind will always follow.

The Ultimate Resource 22:3

Sin will keep you from the Bible or the Bible will keep you from sin.

Dwight Moody

Self-Esteem

Self-esteem can be defined as the state that exists when you are not arbitrarily haranguing and abusing yourself but choose to fight back against those automatic thoughts with meaningful rational responses. When you do this effectively, you will experience a natural sense of jubilation and self-endorsement.

Feeling Good 344:2

The person with low self-esteem is always trying to prove himself. He has a need to be right in every situation, to verify himself. He gets all wrapped up in constantly looking at himself.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 71:4

You cannot really unconditionally love others when you need to prove your own self-worth. It may look as if you are loving them, when actually you are just using them to reassure yourself that you're OK.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 71:6

Serenity

God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things that should be changed, and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other.

Reinhold Niebuhr

God grant me the serenity

To accept the things I cannot change;

Courage to change the things I can;

And wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;

Enjoying one moment at a time;

Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;

Taking, as He did, this sinful world

As it is, not as I would have it;

Trusting that He will make all things right

If I surrender to His Will;

So that I may be reasonably happy in this life

And supremely happy with Him

Forever and ever in the next.

Alcoholics Anonymous version

Sexual Immorality

Sexual impurity is a series of bad decisions on our part--a result of immature character--and deliverance won't deliver you into instant maturity. Character work needs to be done.

Every Man's Battle 92:2

We have a very good rule at home. Any video unsuitable for the kids is probably unsuitable for adults. With this rule in place, sensual movies have never been a problem in our home.

Every Man's Battle

Does sexual permissiveness buy anything more than temporary relief from sensual lust? Do we see in our society any sign that it has brought any kind of social good to people? Are marriages more stable? Are people less paranoid? Can you find any statistics to show that we've made progress through our permissive attitude toward sex?

No, quite the opposite. These are many hard facts to substantiate the truth of God - sex outside the bonds of marriage is not only immoral, it is the pathway to personal destruction, both physical and emotional.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 50:4

Because we Americans have been weaned on indiscipline, indecency, and sensuality, we are living in modern Corinth. In our society, it is very difficult for anyone to grow to young adulthood without suffering some damage in the sex department of his personality.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 18:4

Sin

The first symptom of being born separated from God is that we are born self-centered. That's our problem. We're all self-centered. From this self-centeredness all that we call "sins" spring. All of our wrong deeds and actions spring from self-centeredness.

Common Ground 47:2

I heard a couple of sinners fighting in the woods just the other night. They had four legs and fur. What was their problem? They were self-centered. You watch animals. They're self-centered. The problem of sin has permeated all creation. It's survival of the fittest - it's just that simple.

Common Ground 48:1

For a man to run away from problems is merely an attempt to run away from himself. And so long as a man carries himself with him, he will carry his problems as well.

The ABC's of Bible Prayer 10

Stress

Handle every stressful situation like a dog.

If you can't eat it or play with it,

Just pee on it and walk away.

Unknown

Temptation

Now I saw that as God had His hand in all the providences and dispensations that overtook His elect, so He had His hand in all the temptations that they had to sin against Him, not to spur them to wickedness, but to choose their temptations and troubles for them, and also to leave them for a time to such things only as might not destroy them, but rather humble them, and not put them beyond, but lay them in the way of the renewing of His mercy.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 86:2

The nearer we get to temptation, the more sure we are of yielding to it. The farther we keep away from temptation, the safer we are. Greater distance means greater assurance of staying victorious.

The ABC's of Bible Prayer 62:2

I dare not, when I come before the Lord, get up off my knees until I entreat Him for help and mercy against the temptations that are to come.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 138:1

Work and Achievement

If you do not get the message that happiness does not reliably and necessarily follow from success, you may work even harder to try to recapture the feeling you once had from being on top. This is the basis for your addition to work.

Feeling Good 330:1

I am not arguing that success and achievement are undesirable. That would be unrealistic. Being productive and doing well can be enormously satisfying and enjoyable. However, it is neither necessary nor sufficient to be a great achiever in order to be maximally happy.

Feeling Good 351:1

Worship

In the Bible, fearing God means to hold Him in awe, to respect Him, to reverence Him. But not to be afraid of Him.

Uncommon Ground 12:5

If we don't worship the Creator and give glory to Him, our only other option is to worship the created, because mankind is hopelessly religious and will inevitably worship something. And usually, when we worship the created, we end up in some way worshiping ourselves.

Uncommon Ground 15:2

This is the basic message of all three angels - a warning against trying to save oneself, a warning against living life independent of God, a warning against counting anything else important except our personal oneness and fellowship with Jesus Christ.

Uncommon Ground 18:4

What does it mean to worship the beast and his image? It means to worship self...All you have to do is live your life independent of Jesus, and you're a worshiper of the beast and his image.

Uncommon Ground 18:5

The person who is trying to save himself by his own works is worshiping himself; he becomes his own god.

Uncommon Ground 20:2

Worth

"What is the purpose and meaning of life without a concept of worth?" It's simple. Rather than grasp for "worth," aim for satisfaction, pleasure, learning, mastery, personal growth and communication with others every day of your life.

Feeling Good 343:2

For all that we learn and all that we achieve, are we ever more than what we become in our darkest moments?

Joseph Hermens

A Call to Stand Apart

In his restless youth the prodigal looked upon his father as stern and severe. How different his conception of him now! So those who are deceived by Satan look upon God as hard and exacting. They regard Him as watching to denounce and condemn, as unwilling to receive the sinner so long as there is a legal excuse for not helping to him. His law they regard as a restriction upon men's happiness, a burdensome yoke from which they are glad to escape. But he whose eyes hare been opened by the love of Christ will behold God as full of compassion. He does not appear as a tyrannical, relentless being, but as a father longing to embrace his repenting son.

A Call to Stand Apart 13:5

Alcoholics Anonymous version

God grant me the serenity

To accept the things I cannot change;

Courage to change the things I can;

And wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;

Enjoying one moment at a time;

Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;

Taking, as He did, this sinful world

As it is, not as I would have it;

Trusting that He will make all things right

If I surrender to His Will;

So that I may be reasonably happy in this life

And supremely happy with Him

Forever and ever in the next.

Alcoholics Anonymous version

Charles Swindoll

The longer I live the more convinced I become that life is 10 percent what happens to us and 90 percent how we respond to it. I believe the single most significant decision I can make on a day-to-day basis is my choice of attitude.

Charles Swindoll

Common Ground

[In reference to making people feel bad about not knowing Bible facts] "This is of the devil." Sometimes we use force and pressure to accomplish what appears to be religious purposes. How subtle.

Common Ground 78:1

Now, I respect the devil. I hope you will interpret that word correctly. I respect him in the sense that I know he's bigger and more powerful than I am. I am not big enough to handle him; I am not cunning enough to outwit him. But I have learned that the devil, in spite of his rebellion, has a healthy respect for Jesus Christ. We have no reason to fear as long as we are in the presence of Jesus and under His protection.

Common Ground 78:3

Christ's followers are to look upon Satan as a conquered foe. Upon the cross Jesus gained the victory for them. The omnipotent power of the Holy Spirit is the defense of every contrite soul. Not one that in penitence and faith claims His protection will Christ permit to pass under the enemy's power.

Common Ground 79:2

When the devil is finally brought to ashes, I see the God of heaven, the Father of love, convulsed in sobs of anguish. God is the one who created Lucifer, and a son gone bad is a son still.

I see the angels stop their singing, as they begin to weep along with God. perhaps we will weep too. Because, though it will be good news when he is gone, it is still bad news that he has to go.

Common Ground 81:2

The first symptom of being born separated from God is that we are born self-centered. That's our problem. We're all self-centered. From this self-centeredness all that we call "sins" spring. All of our wrong deeds and actions spring from self-centeredness.

Common Ground 47:2

I heard a couple of sinners fighting in the woods just the other night. They had four legs and fur. What was their problem? They were self-centered. You watch animals. They're self-centered. The problem of sin has permeated all creation. It's survival of the fittest - it's just that simple.

Common Ground 48:1

Common Mistakes Singles Make

My "Essential" list [for a mate] now has one thing on it: "Must be someone who would enhance my walk with God and allow us to have a more effective ministry together than we have separately."

Common Mistakes Singles Make 52:3

Here's what I recommend about dating:

1. Don't date during high school years. Spend lots of time in group activities, get to know many of the opposite sex in various settings, and observe carefully the character and principles you see in these people. Develop your own personality, gifts, and skills during these years. Get to know God and get to know yourself, but avoid the pain and potential danger of dating. You're too young and it's too rife with pitfalls.

2. Begin to develop a clear idea of the kind of man/woman you want to find for a life's partner. Develop a clear statement of your standards, and then make sure you're becoming the kind of woman/man that person would want!

3. Continue, through college and beyond, to interact with those of the opposite sex in group settings. Have long (not intimate) conversations with those of the opposite sex with whom you are friends. Get to know how they think. Develop friendships with those who are worthy friends.

4. When you are attracted to an individual person, start a prayer vigil about your feelings. Ask God to take control of your emotions. Be aware of your vulnerability. Make sure that person meets the standards established by God's Word and you.

5. If the attraction continues on both parts, spend some one-on-one time but not in secluded settings. Have quiet conversations on the phone or on the sidelines in a group setting, but never allow the two of you to be alone in a setting that would offer opportunities for physical involvement (cars, homes, etc). restaurants are good places for long conversations.

6. Only when the two of you are ready for a lifetime commitment and are assured that this is God's plan for you (through lots of time in prayer together and separately, plus advice from trusted adults in your life), then allow some physical contact - hand holding, light kisses. Don't put yourself in situations where you can be tempted for intimate physical relations. You are not in control of your hormones at this point. Don't trust them.

7. Get a ring and a date, and get married, and then go for it, with abandonment, freedom, no guilt, and great enjoyment.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 90:4

Whether or not you're alone, you can still be lonely. Loneliness is an attitude; aloneness is a circumstance.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 54:1

When I think of the most godly people I know, I see that their lives have not been one happy event after another, with everything fulfilling and exciting. But through all their circumstances, happy or not, they have had peace and joy and abiding contentment. When you have these three things, nothing else really matters.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 64:4

We find fulfillment when we stop looking for it and concentrate instead on knowing God.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 64:5

Another key element in fighting back is to develop some accountability for ourselves. Since it doesn't come naturally through a marriage partner, perhaps we have to put our own accountability structures in place. That's where a pastor, a good friend, a small group, or a family member can be so valuable to us.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 138:3

Humanistic thinking and psychological philosophies of the past several decades have led people to blame their parents and family situations for every problem they face. Counselors have frequently advised people to break relationships with family members so they can "find themselves" and "be their own person." The exaggerated focus on individual rights and freedoms has led us to mistreat close family ties, and that is very destructive because God has made us to be a part of a family, and nothing can replace our family relationships.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 117:2

When God gives us earthly money, He's looking to see how well we use it for eternal, heavenly purposes. When we use our money for His glory, we are storing up treasures in heaven.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 123:3

We find fulfillment when we stop looking for it and concentrate instead on knowing God.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 64:5

Our understanding of God is warped beyond belief, and that always gets us into trouble. The more we know who God is - not who we think He is or who we want Him to be, but who He is as defined in the Bible - the less we'll see Him as our Santa Claus in the Sky. We were created for God's purposes, not the other way around, and He alone is sovereign.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 137:5

A sign of maturity is the ability to recognize and acknowledge your feelings and, without discounting them, put them in their proper place when it comes to decision making.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 69:4

Once you become a Christian, it makes a difference in you. Paul says, "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17).

Common Mistakes Singles Make 142:4

As disciples of Jesus Christ, we must let everything in our lives take second place to our commitment to Him.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 149:3

Does sexual permissiveness buy anything more than temporary relief from sensual lust? Do we see in our society any sign that it has brought any kind of social good to people? Are marriages more stable? Are people less paranoid? Can you find any statistics to show that we've made progress through our permissive attitude toward sex?

No, quite the opposite. These are many hard facts to substantiate the truth of God - sex outside the bonds of marriage is not only immoral, it is the pathway to personal destruction, both physical and emotional.

Common Mistakes Singles Make 50:4

Deadly Emotions

Nothing is wrong with the emotion of anger per se. What is damaging is how we express our anger - for example, in violent actions against another person, causing injury to property, and so forth. What is also damaging is hanging on to anger and allowing it to build up inside us until we live in continual rage.

Deadly Emotions 52:2

The best antidote for an offense against us is to respond by committing an act of benevolence or generosity toward someone else. In doing so, you are choosing to rent out more space in your heart to love that to unforgiveness, hate, anger, bitterness, or any other toxic emotion.

Deadly Emotions 135:6

You may forgive but find the other person unwilling to reconcile. If that happens, know that you have done your part. Leave behind the toxic emotions between yo uand that person. Trust God to do His work in the other person's life, in His timing, and using His methods.

Deadly Emotions 167:2

Certain emotional states are much more damaging than others. Extreme joy and extreme sorrow both exert physical stress. But intense grief is far more damaging than intense joy! We have something of a stress gauge in our bodies. The emotions that are most damaging are rage, unforgiveness, depression, anger, worry, frustration, fear, grief, and guilt.

Deadly Emotions 20:1

Medical research is showing more and more that there may be a mind-body connection to most diseases and aliments, not just a few.

Psychiatric diseases that have been linked to long-term stress include generalized anxiety disorder, panic attacks, post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorder, as well as other more rare psychiatric diseases.

Deadly Emotions 25:1-2

If a person keeps stuffing toxic emotions year after year, the day will come when those buried emotions come pouring out.

The end of all stress-hormone addictions isn't beautiful and it isn't fun. The result is a state of bad health marked by a weakened immune system, heart problems, and premature aging.

Deadly Emotions 31:1-2

Getting charged up at an exciting athletic event or watching an action-packed movie may be fun for the moment. But the internalization of being continually charged up can put a person on the fast track to total burnout. Remember always: the heart, nervous system, and various other organs of the body respond to positive stress events in exactly the same way they respond to negative stress events.

Deadly Emotions 31:6

If you are living your life in what seems like a constant state of hurry or emergency, you may very well be addicted to your own stress hormones. You may feel good right now as you burn the candle at both ends, but remember that eventually those two burning ends will meet each other.

Deadly Emotions 32:3

"Hardness of heart" is not just a euphemism for stubbornness or a rigid attitude. It is a physical state of the heart that occurs from severe atherosclerosis. Those who have this condition usually suffer from angina, which is chest pain with physical exertion. A heart hardened by years of emotional pain and the resulting ravaging effects of stress hormones is a heart that experiences physical pain.

Deadly Emotions 46

The old adage "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" simply isn't true. Words can have a devastating emotional impact on a person.

Deadly Emotions 53:1

To be aware of your own emotional state, however, you must ask yourself, "How do I make others feel?"

Deadly Emotions 90

Phantom fears - those that aren't rooted in reality - are just as real to the body as genuine danger.

Deadly Emotions 95:2

Faith is the ultimate cure for fear. Faith is believing that God is in charge of all things and that we can rely on Him to do what is eternally best for each of us. I encourage you strongly: Chose to believe that God is at work in your life and in the lives of those around you. Choose to believe that God is in control of all situations and all circumstances. Faith is always a choice - one that I encourage you to make daily!

Deadly Emotions 101:8

Reasons do not produce bitterness. Attitudes do.

Deadly Emotions 118:1

Although at present these is no clearly established scientific link between disease and the emotions of resentment, bitterness, and guilt, these emotions nearly always are very closely linked to anger, anxiety, and depression. The latter three are strongly linked to disease. They provoke a strong stress response. I am thoroughly convinced that resentment and bitterness are dimensions of anger: they are smoldering, lingering ashes of rage and ongoing hostility. I am also thoroughly convinced that much anxiety and depression are rooted in ongoing guilt for which a person has never received genuine forgiveness.

Deadly Emotions 119:3

Just as love is the most powerful positive emotion, hatred is the most powerful negative one. Resentment, bitterness, and anger are the dark pathways to this harmful passion.

Deadly Emotions 123:2

No matter what you may have been through, even unspeakable pain, you are still in control of your identity. No event can change you on the inside unless you allow it to do so. No person can cause you to respond in a particular way on the inside unless you choose to react that way. The freedom to forge your own opinions, ideas, attitudes, and choices rests solely and uniquely with you.

Deadly Emotions 140:3

The ultimate "real you" is a composite of what your heart tells your brain, your brain tells your heart, and your will decides to believe, say, and do.

Deadly Emotions 142:5

The strongest biological oscillator in the body is the heart. It acts in a way similar to Huygen's clocks. The heart has the ability to pull every other bodily system into its own rhythm, whatever that may be. When the heart is at peace or filled with love, it communicates harmony to the entire body. And conversely, when toxic emotions have triggered the heart to beat in an irregular way, to beat harder, or to beat faster, the heart communicates the very opposite of peace to the other organs of the body.

Deadly Emotions 148:3

Most people yearn for others to acknowledge and recognise the good job that they are doing. It is true that people will work harder for recognition than for money.

Deadly Emotions 150:1

In failing to forgive, your really are hurting only yourself. Unforgiveness rarely hurts the person who offended you. Most of the people you are unwilling to forgive don't even realize you are upset with them. Many people are so rude or uncaring that they don't know when they offend others.

Deadly Emotions 170:5

Once we have confessed our sins to God and received His forgiveness, we should press toward the goal that lies ahead. This pressing on includes an active intentional act of goal-setting and of looking to the future with hope, fully believing, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" (Phil. 4:13).

Deadly Emotions 176:5

The person who trades in a long-term goal on short-term ease or happiness tends to end up in a position he hates. Stick with the tougher, longer, harder pursuit that is truly rooted in your talents and desires. In the end, you'll find the joy you desired.

Deadly Emotions 187:2

Walking in love is a choice. Acting on that choice takes effort. Love means choosing to turn yourself inside out for others, to turn your thinking upside down from the way the vast majority of people in the world think, and to go radically against what many people perceive to be basic human nature and pursue instead the nature of God. making this choice of love sometimes means you have to suffer.

Deadly Emotions 217:5

Walking in love requires not only an intentional, initial choice, but an ongoing intentional choice. Loving as God loves requires practice, practice, practice. So begin to practice patience and kindness. Practice not being jealous, proud, rude, or selfish.

Deadly Emotions 218:3

Depression is not something that only ungodly people experience. Some seem to believe that depression is inevitably linked with sin. Unconfessed and unrepented-of sin may cause depression at times, but sin does not cause all depression. God's people are just as prone to depression as those who don't know the Lord.

Deadly Emotions 70:6

What few people realize is that cancer cells are common in all people. Most of us, however, have healthy immune systems that efficiently and powerfully destroy these dangerous cells. The natural "killer" cells of the immune system attack cancer cells before they can form a tumor.

Deadly Emotions 28:1

Dwight Moody

Sin will keep you from the Bible or the Bible will keep you from sin.

Dwight Moody

Ecclesiastes

Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the grave, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom.

Ecclesiastes 9:10

Now all has been heard; here is the conclusion of the matter: Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man.

Ecclesiastes 12:13

Better to go to the house of mourning

Than to go to the house of feasting,

For that is the end of all men;

And the living will take it to heart.

Sorrow is better than laughter,

For by a sad countenance the heart is made better.

The heart of the wise is the house of mourning,

But the heart of fools is the bouse of mirth.

Ecclesiastes 7:2-4

Every Man's Battle

Sexual impurity is a series of bad decisions on our part--a result of immature character--and deliverance won't deliver you into instant maturity. Character work needs to be done.

Every Man's Battle 92:2

We have a very good rule at home. Any video unsuitable for the kids is probably unsuitable for adults. With this rule in place, sensual movies have never been a problem in our home.

Every Man's Battle

Ezekiel

"When I say to the wicked, 'You shall surely die,' and you give him no warning, nor speak to warn the wicked from his wicked way, to save his life, that same wicked man shall die in his iniquity; but his blood I will require at your hand. Yet, if you warn the wicked, and he does not turn from his wickedness, nor from his wicked way, he shall die in his iniquity; but you have delivered your soul."

Ezekiel 3:18-19

Feeling Good

It is just childish pouting to insist you have the right to be angry. Of course you do! Anger is legally permitted in the United States. The crucial issue is - is it to your advantage to feel angry? Will you or the world really benefit from your rage?

Feeling Good 197:1

Other people have free will, and often think and act in ways that aren't to your liking. All of your insistence that they must fall in line with your desires and wishes will not produce this result. The opposite is more often true. Your attempts to coerce and manipulate people with angry demands most often will alienate and polarize them and make them much less likely to want to please you. This is because other people don't like being controlled or dominated any more than you do. Your anger will simply limit the creative possibilities for problem solving.

Feeling Good 160:1

Empathy is the ability to comprehend with accuracy the precise thoughts and motivations of other people in such a way that they would say, "Yes, that is exactly where I'm coming from!" When you have this extraordinary knowledge, you will understand and accept without anger why others act as they do even though their actions might not be to your liking.

Feeling Good 185:2

In fact, it is your urge to help complainers that maintains the monotonous interaction. Paradoxically, when you agree with their pessimistic whining, they quickly run out of steam.

Feeling Good 223:2

[In reference to a patient who died] Although his death was profoundly sad for the family and for me, there was a tenderness and a beauty to the experience that I will never forget. The sense of loss and the weeping reminded me - "You can love. You can care." This made the grief an elevating experience that was entirely devoid of pain or suffering for me.

Feeling Good 256:2

Either depression or sadness can develop after a loss or a failure in your efforts to reach a goal of great personal importance. Sadness comes, however, without distortion. It involves a flow of feeling and therefore has a time limit. It never involves a lessening of your self-esteem. Depression is frozen - it tends to persist or recur indefinitely, and always involves loss of self-esteem.

Feeling Good 232:2

It has no adaptive or positive function whatsoever, and represents one of the worst forms of suffering. Its only redeeming value is the growth you experience when you recover from it.

Feeling Good 232:3

The attitude that depression is necessary strikes me as destructive, inhuman, and victimizing.

Feeling Good 233:1

[In reference to people who think that depression is a result of being a failure] So how can you possibly say that depression is due to the fact that they are failures? Seems to me that it's more the other way around - that the failure is due to the depression.

Feeling Good 248:3

Depression, like the plague, is no respecter of status

Feeling Good 331

Should Removal Techniques. The point of this is to make you aware that you are being critical of yourself unnecessarily. Since you are ultimately making your own rules, once you decide that a rule is not useful you can revise it or get rid of it.

Feeling Good 208:3

Reward the desired behavior instead of punishing the undesired behavior. Punishment causes aversion and resentment and brings about alienation and avoidance.

Feeling Good 178:2

What is the point of abusing yourself with guilt in the first place? If you did make a mistake and act in a hurtful way, your guilt won't reverse your blunder in some magical manner.

Feeling Good 205

Change and learning occur most readily when you (a) recognize that an arror has occurred and (b) develop a strategy for correcting the problem. An attitude of self-love and relaxation facilitates this, whereas guilt often interferes.

Feeling Good 206:1

Thus, what is called for when you do goof up is a process of recognition, learning, and change. Does guilt help you with any of these? I don't believe it does. Rather than facilitating your recognition of your error, guilt engages you in a coverup operation. You want to close your ears to any criticism. You can't bear to be in the wrong because it feels so terrible. This is why guilt is counterproductive.

Feeling Good 206:3

The demand or need for love before you can feel happy is called "dependency." Dependency means that you are unable to assume responsibility for you emotional life.

Feeling Good 311:2

People who have found happiness within themselves are usually the most desirable to members of the opposite sex and become like magnets because they are at peace and generate a sense of joy.

Feeling Good 312:2

There is a difference between wanting and needing something. Oxygen is a need, but love is a want. I repeat: LOVE IS NOT AN ADULT HUMAN NEED! It's okay to want a loving relationship with another human being. There is nothing wrong with that. It is a delicious pleasure to be involved in a good relationship with someone you love. But you do not need that external approval, love, or attention in order to survive or to experience maximal levels of happiness.

Feeling Good 322:1

You're not expected to be perfect. Just acknowledge your error and take whatever steps you can to correct it. It sounds simple (and it is!), but it may take some effort to transform this insight into an emotional reality.

Feeling Good

Self-esteem can be defined as the state that exists when you are not arbitrarily haranguing and abusing yourself but choose to fight back against those automatic thoughts with meaningful rational responses. When you do this effectively, you will experience a natural sense of jubilation and self-endorsement.

Feeling Good 344:2

If you do not get the message that happiness does not reliably and necessarily follow from success, you may work even harder to try to recapture the feeling you once had from being on top. This is the basis for your addition to work.

Feeling Good 330:1

I am not arguing that success and achievement are undesirable. That would be unrealistic. Being productive and doing well can be enormously satisfying and enjoyable. However, it is neither necessary nor sufficient to be a great achiever in order to be maximally happy.

Feeling Good 351:1

"What is the purpose and meaning of life without a concept of worth?" It's simple. Rather than grasp for "worth," aim for satisfaction, pleasure, learning, mastery, personal growth and communication with others every day of your life.

Feeling Good 343:2

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners

So I went to prayer to God. While I was at prayer, I uttered words to this effect: "Lord, Satan tells me that neither Your mercy nor Christ's blood is sufficient to save my soul. Lord, shall I honor You most by believing You will and can, or him, but believing You neither will nor can? Lord, I would honor You by believing You will and Can."

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 116:6

"Sinner, you think that because of your sins and infirmities I cannot save your soul; but behold, my Son is by Me, and upon Him I look, and not on you, and shall deal with you according to My pleasure with Him." At this I was greatly enlightened in my mind and made to understand that God could justify a sinner at any time; it was but His looking upon Christ and imputing His benefits to us, and the work was forthwith done.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 149

I concluded a little grace, a little love, a little of the true fear of God, is better than all gifts. I am fully convinced that it is possible for souls, who can scarcely give a man an answer but with great confusion as to method, to have a thousand times more grace and so be more in the love and favor of the Lord, than some who by the virtue of the gift of knowledge can deliver themselves like angels.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 171:1

I would lie under great guilt for sin, even crushed to the ground with the weight of it, and then the Lord would show me the death of Christ. Yes, He so sprinkled my conscience with His blood that I would find, even before I was aware, that in this conscience, where but just now did reign and rage the law, even there would rest and abide the peace and love of God throught Christ.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 72:2

Now these slanders, with the others, I glory in, because they are but slanders, foolish or scheming lies and falsehoods cast upon me by the devil and his seed; and should I not be dealt with thus wickedly by the world, I should lack one of the signs of a saint and a child of God.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 174:1

I never knew what it was for God to stand by me at all times and at every offer of Satan to afflict me, as I have found Him since I came in to this place [prison], for as fears have presented themselves, so have supports and encouragements. Yes, when I have been started, even as it were at nothing else but my shadow, yet God being very tender to me, has not suffered me to be molested, but would with one Scripture or another strengthen me against all.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 181:1

I have often said that were it lawful, I would pray for greater trouble for the greater comfort's sake.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 182

I saw that it was not my good frame of heart that made my righteousness better, nor yet my bad frame that made my righteousness worse, for my righteousness was Jesus Christ Himself, "the same yesterday, today, and forever" (Hebrews 13:8).

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 133:1

Now I saw that as God had His hand in all the providences and dispensations that overtook His elect, so He had His hand in all the temptations that they had to sin against Him, not to spur them to wickedness, but to choose their temptations and troubles for them, and also to leave them for a time to such things only as might not destroy them, but rather humble them, and not put them beyond, but lay them in the way of the renewing of His mercy.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 86:2

I dare not, when I come before the Lord, get up off my knees until I entreat Him for help and mercy against the temptations that are to come.

Grace Abounding - To the Chief of Sinners 138:1

Healing for Damaged Emotions

Never was Jesus more divine that at those moments when He was expressing white-hot anger. many times, perfect love and anger go hand in hand; indeed, the anger is the result of perfect love.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 105:1

Anger is a divinely implanted emotion, part of God's image in the human personality, and is to be used for constructive purposes.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 106:2

Satan tries to turn temperamental depression into spiritual depression. Satan always wants to turn emotional depression into spiritual defeat.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 118

I personally spent many years fighting myself, trying to be someone else, battling my nervous, high-strung temperament, always feeling a bit angry about that, and trying to be someone else. The turning point came when I could accept myself as I am.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 118:3

When you surrender your anger and oversensitivity to injustice and unfairness, you won't have trouble with self-pity, and your depressions will lessen immediately.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 127:3

There are no such things as bad feelings and good feelings. Feelings are just feelings. They are consequences of a whole range of things that come out of your personality. No emotions are in themselves sinful. What you do with them will determine whether they are wrong or right. How you handle them will determine whether they lead you to righteousness or to sinfulness. The emotions themselves are a very important part of your God-given personality equipment.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 104:4

Many married people fail to allow God to do for them what only He can do. Then they ask other human beings, their spouses, to do what they cannot possibly do. If they work at it, men make good husbands, and women make good wives. But they make lousy gods. They're not meant for that. And all those wonderful promises that people make on their wedding day - "I promise to love, care for you, cherish you, through all the circumstances and vicissitudes of life" - these are possible only when a heart is secure in God's love, grace, and care. Only a forgiven and graced soul can keep such promises.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 32:2

You may need to forgive your marriage partner for past mistakes. But to forgive is also a present extension of grace to the person himself. Forgive your partner for just being the way he or she is - unable to meet some of your needs. Some of the most serious marital depressions arise when a husband or a wife thinks, "But, God, I have a right to feel this way! I ought to feel this way because she/he..." And when we say we have a right to feel cheated and resentful and betrayed, we are on the road to depression!

Healing for Damaged Emotions 126:3

Then there's another kind [damaged emotions], that for want of a better term, I call the perfectionist complex. This is the inner feeling that says, "I can never quite achieve. I never do anything well enough. I can't please myself, others, or God." This kind of a person is always groping, striving, usually feeling guilty, driven by inner oughts and shoulds. "I ought to be able to do this. I should be able to do that. I must be a little bit better." He's ever climbing, but never reaching.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 15:1

Oh, how the perfectionist complex defeats people in the Christian life! And how it even keeps people out of the kingdom!

Healing for Damaged Emotions 16:4

Perfectionism is a counterfeit for Christian perfection, holiness, sanctification, or the Spirit-filled life. Instead of making us holy persons and integrated personalities - that is, whole persons in Christ - perfectionism leaves us spiritual Pharisees and emotional neurotics.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 77:3

The person with low self-esteem is always trying to prove himself. He has a need to be right in every situation, to verify himself. He gets all wrapped up in constantly looking at himself.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 71:4

You cannot really unconditionally love others when you need to prove your own self-worth. It may look as if you are loving them, when actually you are just using them to reassure yourself that you're OK.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 71:6

Because we Americans have been weaned on indiscipline, indecency, and sensuality, we are living in modern Corinth. In our society, it is very difficult for anyone to grow to young adulthood without suffering some damage in the sex department of his personality.

Healing for Damaged Emotions 18:4

Howard Hendricks

Show me an individual who is effective in public, and I will show you an individual who is effective in private. Find a person of deep conviction who is genuinely impacting his society, and you'll inevitably find a person who spends time alone with God.

Howard Hendricks

Joseph Hermens

Love and compatibility seem to be a continuum in my life. At one extreme, there is compatibility in the form of shared goals and similar lifestyles, but devoid of that unexplainable emotion that makes us human - love. At the other extreme is the undeniable desire of the heart that overwhelms logical reasoning and rational fears. What is the ideal balance between these extremes, or is it even possible to have the best of both in a relationship?

Joseph Hermens

Suffering and diversity may build character, but nothing breaks down the spirit like the slow passing of time without purpose.

Joseph Hermens

I'm still looking for someone who wants to live an ordinary life in an extraordinary way.

Joseph Hermens

There should be a law that says you can't buy things you don't need with money you don't have; it seems like this would be the first step to straiting out or rediculous economy.

Joseph Hermens

Why do we waste time with unnecessary, over-used phrases like, "May God add special meaning to the reading of His Word," and attempt to beautify reality with the use of flowery language like, "The fields are ripe for the harvest?" Why can't we just say it how it is? Real people are hurting, they need God's Word; it is the truth that can lift them above the pain in this world.

Joseph Hermens

As I look around me I see so much pain, so much hurt, and so much unhappiness; so with eyes wide open, I look up to the only One who can heal this broken world, one heart at a time.

Joseph Hermens

For all that we learn and all that we achieve, are we ever more than what we become in our darkest moments?

Joseph Hermens

Lislie Gibson

A smile costs nothing, but gives much. It enriches those who give it. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.

None is so rich or mighty that he can get along without it, and none is so poor but that he cannot be made richer by it

A smile creates happiness in the home, promotes good will in business, and is the cornerstone of friendship. It can perk up the weary, bring cheer to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad, and is nature's best antidote for trouble.

Yet, it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away.

When people are too tired to give you a smile, give them one of yours. no one needs a smile so much as he who has none to give.

Lislie Gibson

Michelle Obama, DNC

Barak and I were raised with so many of the same values. Like you work hard for what you want in life. That your word is your bond - you do what you say you are going to do. That you treat people with dignity and respect even if you don't know them and even if you don't agree with them. Barack and I set out to build lives guided by these values and to pass them on to the next generation.

Michelle Obama, DNC

The only limit to the height of your achievements is the reach of your dreams and your willingness to work hard for them.

Michelle Obama, DNC

Nelson Mandela

Bitterness only hurts one's self. If you hate, you will give them your heart and mind. Don't give those two things away.

Nelson Mandela

Paul Pearsall

When we neglect what our heart is trying to say to us and listen only to our brain we suffer the dangerous consequences of the "neglected heart syndrome" and the health effect of abuse, deprivation, and exploitation of the sensitive side of who you are. Living in an increasingly heartless world only further assaults the heart. Yet, tuning in to our own hearts we could begin to experience the child within us, that most sensitive inner self that has the ability to teach us the joy of being alive.

Paul Pearsall

Preface to Animal Farm

In this country intellectual cowardice is the worst enemy a writer or journalist has to face, and that fact does not seem to me to have had the discussion it deserves

Preface to Animal Farm 1:2

Unpopular ideas can be silenced, and inconvenient facts kept dark, without the need for any official ban...Anyone who challenges the prevailing orthodoxy finds himself silenced with surprising effectiveness. A genuinely unfashionable opinion is almost never given a fair hearing, either in the popular press or in the highbrow periodicals.

Preface to Animal Farm 1:3

There always must be, or at any rate there always will be, some degree of censorship, so long as organized societies endure. But freedom, as Rosa Luxembourg said, is 'freedom for the other fellow'. The same principle is contained in the famous words of Voltaire: 'I detest what you say; I will defend to the death your right to say it'. If the intellectual liberty which without a doubt has been one of the distinguishing marks of western civilization means anything at all, it means that everyone shall have the right to say and to print what he believes to be the truth, provided only that it does not harm the rest of the community in some quite unmistakable way.

Preface to Animal Farm 5

If one loves democracy, the argument runs, one must crush its enemies by no matter what means. And who are its enemies? It always appears that they are not only those who attack it openly and consciously, but those who 'objectively' endanger it by spreading mistaken doctrines. In other words, defending democracy involves destroying all independence of thought.

These people don't see that if you encourage totalitarian methods, the time may

come when they will be used against you instead of for you. Make a habit of

imprisoning Fascists without trial, and perhaps the process won't stop at Fascists.

Preface to Animal Farm 5:1

Proverbs

Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.

Proverbs 17:14

Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down.

Proverbs 26:20

He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding.

Proverbs 15:32

Many are the plans in a man's heart, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails.

Proverbs 19:21

All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.

Proverbs 14:23

It is not good to have zeal without knowledge, nor to be hasty and miss the way.

Proverbs 19:2

Reinhold Niebuhr

God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things that should be changed, and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other.

Reinhold Niebuhr

Reinvent Your Sabbath School

Ministry-driven Sabbath schools will bring healing to churches ripped apart by name-calling and divisive factions.

Reinvent Your Sabbath School 67:5

Have you ever noticed how bickering and infighting stop when people work together for something important?

Reinvent Your Sabbath School 67:6

We must fight against becoming insulated from the world instead of inoculated to enter the world.

Reinvent Your Sabbath School 68:4

Radical: The literal meaning of "radical" is "to the root," which is where Jesus always moved. Whether with a Samaritan woman at a well or a learned Pharisee under cover of night, Jesus cut to the root to connect directly with real needs. He was never an extremist; His life was always graciously radical.

Reinvent Your Sabbath School 67:2

Selected Messages book 2 52

The man who makes the working of miracles the test of his faith will find that Satan can, through a species of deceptions, perform wonders that will appear to be genuine miracles.

Selected Messages book 2 52

Testimonies for the Church, vol. 1 412

Some of these persons have exercises which they call gifts and say that the Lord has placed them in the church. They have an unmeaning gibberish which they call the unknown tongue, which is unknown not only by man but by the Lord and all heaven. Such gifts are manufactured by men and women, aided by the great deceiver. Fanaticism, false excitement, false talking in tongues, and noisy exercises have been considered gifts which God has placed in the church. Some have been deceived here.

Testimonies for the Church, vol. 1 412

The ABC's of Bible Prayer

As we dwell on the attributes of Christ, we will become like Him, and in Him we can meet a conquered devil and his temptations victoriously. On the other hand, if we are constantly talking about the devil, we unconsciously begin to take on his attributes.

The ABC's of Bible Prayer 201:1

I follow the instruction of Matthew 5:44 where it tells me to love my enemy. I make a list of one or more of the good qualities of the one what is being mean and unkind to me. You will be amazed at what happens when you start doing that.

The ABC's of Bible Prayer 186:1

To talk about our failings means that we become weaker. Talk about God's power, however, and faith will increase. It is a law that has proven itself over and over.

The ABC's of Bible Prayer 33:1

In our own strength, it is impossible to accomplish what otherwise might be accomplished were we baptized with the Holy Spirit.

The ABC's of Bible Prayer 162:2

The Holy Spirit will either harden or soften hearts, according to the choice of the individual. Those who receive Him, He will soften and guide them into all truth.

The ABC's of Bible Prayer 174:1

For a man to run away from problems is merely an attempt to run away from himself. And so long as a man carries himself with him, he will carry his problems as well.

The ABC's of Bible Prayer 10

The nearer we get to temptation, the more sure we are of yielding to it. The farther we keep away from temptation, the safer we are. Greater distance means greater assurance of staying victorious.

The ABC's of Bible Prayer 62:2

The Five Love Languages for Singles

Love is not a feeling; it is a way of behaving. Feelings follow behavior; therefore, loving feelings follow loving behavior. Loving actions on my part not only bring me positive feelings about myself, but, if spoken in the love language of the other person, they will stimulate positive feelings inside them.

The Five Love Languages for Singles 235:1

The Great Debaters

The time for justice, the time for equality, is always right now.

The Great Debaters

The Richest Man in Babylon

Wealth that comes quickly goeth the same way. Wealth that stayeth to give enjoyment and satisfaction to its owner comes gradually.

The Richest Man in Babylon

Better a little caution than a great regret.

The Richest Man in Babylon

The Ultimate Resource

God's Spirit inspired the writing; God's Spirit needs to inspire the reading. We're also told that spiritual things are "spiritually discerned." That might seem like common sense, but most people try to read the Bible with their own feelings as the interpreter. They want the Bible to toll them what they want to hear; they want it to say what they want it to say. That won't work - imposing ourselves on what we read rather than allowing God's Spirit to impose on us what we need to understand.

The Ultimate Resource 19

You must approach the Word of God with a heart willing to obey its precepts...Get your heart right with God, and your mind will always follow.

The Ultimate Resource 22:3

Uncommon Ground

God is up for judgement, God is on trial, God is being accused before the universe as unfair, unjust, and unreasonable. The "accuser of the brethren" is also the accuser of God and has been hurling his accusations at the God of the universe for centuries. In order for God to be vindicated, in order for the entire universe, including us, to see that God is indeed a God of love and justice, in order to make the universe forever safe from sin and its results, the judgment must take place.

Uncommon Ground 38:1

Jesus said to the woman dragged to Him, "I don't condemn you." See John 8:2-11. There you have justification. Then He added, "Go, and sin no more." There you have sanctification.

Uncommon Ground 74:5

Love needs definition. The law of God is friendly because it describes what real love is all about. Without it we are like ships without a sail or rudder or compass.

Uncommon Ground 50:9

The saints are going to be known for their patience, and usually we think of patience in terms of being patient with one another. Let's allow for the possibility that the saints are also going to be patient with themselves. They will not give up in discouragement when it seems that the progress in their lives is slow, because God knows what He is working with and has given assurance...so let's be as patient with ourselves as God is.

Uncommon Ground 53:2

Obedience to law can never produce righteousness. It is righteousness that produces obedience.

Uncommon Ground 57:4

We can look at the law of God and join David, Solomon, and Paul in recognizing the beauty of the law. Not a single improvement can be made, except for one - to see those Ten Commandments made up into a life.

Uncommon Ground 62:3

If you don't have rules, you don't have a game. And if you don't understand the rules of life, you don't have a happy person. The Ten Commandments clearly, concisely and yet comprehensively state God's love for people He wants to be secure and happy.

Uncommon Ground 64:3

I realize that your personal, private life with God, your devotional experience day by day, can for you become a works trip. It takes a thief to know a thief. But there's one thing I don't do when it becomes a works trip. I don't scrap it for that reason. I go to my knees and ask God to help me with the problem.

Uncommon Ground 73:5

In the Bible, fearing God means to hold Him in awe, to respect Him, to reverence Him. But not to be afraid of Him.

Uncommon Ground 12:5

If we don't worship the Creator and give glory to Him, our only other option is to worship the created, because mankind is hopelessly religious and will inevitably worship something. And usually, when we worship the created, we end up in some way worshiping ourselves.

Uncommon Ground 15:2

This is the basic message of all three angels - a warning against trying to save oneself, a warning against living life independent of God, a warning against counting anything else important except our personal oneness and fellowship with Jesus Christ.

Uncommon Ground 18:4

What does it mean to worship the beast and his image? It means to worship self...All you have to do is live your life independent of Jesus, and you're a worshiper of the beast and his image.

Uncommon Ground 18:5

The person who is trying to save himself by his own works is worshiping himself; he becomes his own god.

Uncommon Ground 20:2

Unknown

A simple children's story lesson - when we have moments when we "crash," we just need to get up, look to Jesus, and keep going.

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Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it.

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If you are going to worry, don't pray; if you are going to pray, don't worry.

Unknown

Handle every stressful situation like a dog.

If you can't eat it or play with it,

Just pee on it and walk away.

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// used by update event to tell GUI to refresh stats // main class used to start the application class Run { static void Main(string[] args) { new Run(); } public Run() // constructor { Application.Run(new GUI()); } } } #include <conio.h> #include <stdio.h> #include <stdlib.h> #include <time.h> #define ICON_SIZE 5 #define MAX_NAME 7 /* Max Length of an icons name */ #define NUM_ICONS 5 /* Max Number of icons that can be read */ #define PAUSE_TIME 1000 typedef struct /* structure that holds an icon */ { int x, y; /* location on the console where icon will be dsiplayed */ char name[MAX_NAME]; int fcolor, bcolor; char pixels[ICON_SIZE][ICON_SIZE]; } icon_t; void animate(icon_t *icons, int num_icons); void display_icons(icon_t *icons, int num_icons); void move_rocket(icon_t *rocket); void move_tic(icon_t *tic, int state); void move_wink(icon_t *wink, int state); void pause(int delat); int read_icon(FILE *file_p, icon_t *icon); VAR width = 100% VAR height = 100% TAG body { width:[width]; height:[height]; overflow:hidden; } TAG html : body; // html inherits all of the properties assigned to body TAG div; // an empty declaration that can be inherited by a Class or Id to add a tag type to the declaration ID content : div { TAG div { border:solid 1px rgb(0,0,10%); } CLASS first : div { padding:5px; background-color:#FFF; margin:5px; } CLASS second : first { // inherits all of the properties assigned in `first` margin:5px; border:none; TAG h3 { margin:{top:0; right:0; bottom:5px; left:0;} } TAG a { padding:2px 5px; } ACTION hover : a { background-color:#DDD; } // actions are applied to the element they are nested inside } ID abs { position:absolute; background-color:#0F0; text-align:center; padding:10px 0; TAG div { width:200px; left:350px; top:35px; z-index:2; } TAG span { width:200px; left:500px; top:60px; z-index:1; display:block; } } } for num as int, element in zip(range(10), fib()): print "${num + 1} => ${element}"; print ''; gen = i * i for i in range(5); for item in gen: print item print ''; arr = array(gen); for item in arr: print item #include<list> #include<iostream> #include<vector> using namespace std; const int HUMAN = 1; const int COMPUTER = 2; class Nim { public: Nim(int numTokens, int playFirst); ~Nim(); void displayTokens(); bool isOver(); bool find(int token); void makeMove(int token, int newToken1, int newToken2); void undoMove(int addToken, int removeToken1, int removeToken2); int chooseMove(int player, int & bestPile, int & newPile1, int & newPile2); void runComputer(); void runHuman(); int currentPlayer; private: list<int> tokens; }; <body onresize="window.onResize();" onload="window.init();"> <a href="./" id="home_a"> <img id="logoText_img" src="images/logo_text.png" alt="Artist's Circle" /> <img id="logoBack_img" src="images/logo_back.png" alt="Logo" /> </a> </body> (deftemplate ask(slot title) (multislot question)) (deftemplate response(slot title) (slot answer)) (deftemplate info(slot title) (slot true)) (deftemplate solution(slot animal)) (deffacts start-program (ask (title flies) (question Does it fly)) (ask (title lays_eggs) (question Does the animal lay eggs)) (start)) (defrule init ?start <- (start) => (retract ?start) (printout t 'Animal Identification Program' crlf crlf)) def transfer(inputPath, outputFolder, exclude = []): tempPath = outputFolder+splitdrive(inputPath)[1] if(exists(tempPath) == False): os.makedirs(tempPath) filePath = join(outputFolder, splitdrive(inputPath)[1][1:].replace('/', '_').replace('\', '_')) if(char >= '0' && char <= '9' || char == '.' || char == '-' || char == '+') { temp = char; while(next() && (char >= '0' && char <= '9' || char == '.')) temp += char; if(/^(\+|\-)?[\d]+$/.test(temp)) addValue(parseInt(temp)); else if(/^(\+|\-)?[\d]*\.[\d]+$/.test(temp)) addValue(parseFloat(temp)); else throw new Error('Invalid number: '+temp); } try { $data = new HTMLData(); $db = new Database(DB_SERVER, DB_USERNAME, DB_PASSWORD, DB_NAME); include 'data/'.$service.'.data.php'; if(function_exists('serviceMain')) call_user_func('serviceMain', $action); else if(function_exists($action)) call_user_func($action); else throw new ScriptException('undefined action \"'.$action.'\"'); $data->execute(); } catch(UserException $e) { echo $e->toClient(true); // ClientInfo::AddError($e->file, $e->line, 'UserException', $e->message, $e->toString(true)); } catch(Exception $e) { echo $e->toString(true); // ClientInfo::AddError($e->file, $e->line, 'ConnectionException', $e->message, $e->toString(true)); } function onLoad() { var elements1 = [ {n:'linkHandle_div',a:'left'}, {n:'link_div',a:'width',p:'left'}, {n:'content_div',a:'left'}]; initResize('linkHandle_div', elements1); } function getOffsetHTML() { var doc = (document.compatMode && document.compatMode != 'BackCompat') ? document.documentElement : document.body; var style = getStyle(doc); return (temp = parseInt(style.width)) ? Math.round((getWidth() - temp) / 2) : 0; } class Lexer def initialize() @tokens = Hash.new() end def classify(token) if(@tokens[token] == nil) if(token =~/\A[a-zA-Z][a-zA-Z0-9]*\z/) @tokens[token] = "Identifier" elsif(token =~/\A[0-9]+\z/) @tokens[token] = "Integer" elsif(token =~/\A[0-9]*\.[0-9]+\z/) @tokens[token] = "Real" else @tokens[token] = "Error" end else puts "dupliacte token: "+token end end def displayAll() puts "Tokens:" @tokens.each { | key, value | puts key+" is "+value } end end LIBRARY ieee; USE ieee.std_logic_1164.all; USE ieee.std_logic_arith.all; USE ieee.std_logic_signed.all; ENTITY alu IS PORT(inputA, inputB : IN STD_LOGIC_VECTOR(31 DOWNTO 0); aluOp : IN STD_LOGIC_VECTOR(2 DOWNTO 0); result : OUT STD_LOGIC_VECTOR(31 DOWNTO 0); zero : OUT STD_LOGIC); END alu; ARCHITECTURE arch OF alu IS SIGNAL result_temp, result_and, result_or, result_add, result_sub, result_slt : STD_LOGIC_VECTOR(31 DOWNTO 0); BEGIN result_and <= inputA AND inputB; result_or <= inputA OR inputB; result_add <= inputA + inputB; result_sub <= inputA - inputB; result_slt <= "0000000000000000000000000000000" & result_sub(31); WITH aluOp SELECT result_temp <= result_and WHEN "000", result_or WHEN "001", result_add WHEN "010", result_sub WHEN "110", result_slt WHEN "111", X"00000000" WHEN OTHERS; zero <= '1' WHEN (result_temp = 0) ELSE '0'; result <= result_temp; END arch; _number::Parser Float _number = (_neg <|> (try _float) <|> _int) where _neg = do { char '-' ; v <- (try _float <|> _int) ; return (-v) } _float = do { a <- option "0" (many1 digit) ; char '.' ; b <- many1 digit ; return $ read $ a ++ "." ++ b } _int = do { x <- many1 digit ; return $ read $ x } _digits::Parser String _digits = many1 $ satisfy isNumber LCtrl & Up:: Send {PgUp} LCtrl & Down:: Send {PgDn} LCtrl & Left:: Send {Home} LCtrl & Right::Send {End} ^h:: IfWinNotExist WinHugs { Run C:\Program Files\WinHugs\winhugs.exe WinWait WinHugs WinActivate WinHugs Send :cd c:/code/Haskell{Enter} Send :l } else WinActivate WinHugs return (DEFINE (Count numbers) (COND ((NULL? numbers) 0) ((= (CAR numbers) 0) (+ 1 (Count (CDR numbers)))) (ELSE (Count (CDR numbers))) ) ) digit = '0' | '1' | '2' | '3' | '4' | '5' | '6' | '7' | '8' | '9'. hex = 'a' | 'b' | 'c' | 'd' | 'e' | 'f' | digit. number = integer | decimal. integer = digit, {digit}. decimal = digit,{digit},'.',{digit}. word = letter,{letter}. .text .globl __start __start: la $s0, float_a addi $s1, $s0, 16 # number of elements in float_a * 4 + the address of the array add $s2, $s0, $zero # starting point for loop i fori: slt $t0, $s2, $s1 beq $t0, $zero, endi # s2 is the loop index of i * 4, breaks when loop gets to the end of the array addi $s3, $s2, 4 # s3 is the loop index of j * 4 table { border:solid 1px #000; } th { background-color:#EEE; text-align:left; padding:3px 5px 3px 5px; vertical-align:top; white-space:nowrap; empty-cells:show; } td { padding:3px 5px 3px 5px; vertical-align:top; empty-cells:show; } tr.e td { background-color:#FFF; } tr.o td { background-color:#EEE; } tr.h { font-size:20px; } td.c { text-align:center; } td.r { text-align:right; } td.n { white-space:nowrap; } td.m { vertical-align:middle; } table.list_table thead th, table.list_table thead td { font-weight:bold; text-align:left; border-bottom:solid 1px #DDD; } table.form_table tfoot th, table.form_table tfoot td { text-align:center; border-top:solid 1px #DDD; padding-top:10px; } table.form_table tfoot a { padding:2px 5px; font-weight:bold; } delimiter $ CREATE FUNCTION get_keyword_id(_keyword CHAR(16)) RETURNS INT UNSIGNED DETERMINISTIC BEGIN DECLARE _id INT UNSIGNED DEFAULT 0; SELECT id INTO _id FROM words WHERE keyword LIKE _keyword; if _id = 0 then INSERT INTO words(keyword) VALUES(_keyword); SELECT id INTO _id FROM words WHERE keyword LIKE _keyword; RETURN _id; else return _id; end if; END; $ /^[\w-]+(\.[\w-]+)*@[\w-]+(\.[\w-]+)+$/ package astroids; import java.awt.Color; import java.awt.Polygon; import java.awt.Point; import java.awt.Graphics2D; public class Astroid { int direction, radius, speed, spin, spinTotal; double scale; Point center; } bag_to_set([], []). bag_to_set([Head | Tail], Set) :- member(Head, Tail), bag_to_set(Tail, Set), !. bag_to_set([Head | Tail], [Head | Set]) :- bag_to_set(Tail, Set), !. namespace NetScan { public delegate void ErrorEventHandler(object sender, Error error); // delegate used by OnMessage event public delegate void MessageEventHandler(object sender, Message message); // delegate used by OnMessage event public delegate void UpdateDisplayHandler(object state); // used by update event to tell GUI to refresh stats // main class used to start the application class Run { static void Main(string[] args) { new Run(); } public Run() // constructor { Application.Run(new GUI()); } } } #include <conio.h> #include <stdio.h> #include <stdlib.h> #include <time.h> #define ICON_SIZE 5 #define MAX_NAME 7 /* Max Length of an icons name */ #define NUM_ICONS 5 /* Max Number of icons that can be read */ #define PAUSE_TIME 1000 typedef struct /* structure that holds an icon */ { int x, y; /* location on the console where icon will be dsiplayed */ char name[MAX_NAME]; int fcolor, bcolor; char pixels[ICON_SIZE][ICON_SIZE]; } icon_t; void animate(icon_t *icons, int num_icons); void display_icons(icon_t *icons, int num_icons); void move_rocket(icon_t *rocket); void move_tic(icon_t *tic, int state); void move_wink(icon_t *wink, int state); void pause(int delat); int read_icon(FILE *file_p, icon_t *icon); VAR width = 100% VAR height = 100% TAG body { width:[width]; height:[height]; overflow:hidden; } TAG html : body; // html inherits all of the properties assigned to body TAG div; // an empty declaration that can be inherited by a Class or Id to add a tag type to the declaration ID content : div { TAG div { border:solid 1px rgb(0,0,10%); } CLASS first : div { padding:5px; background-color:#FFF; margin:5px; } CLASS second : first { // inherits all of the properties assigned in `first` margin:5px; border:none; TAG h3 { margin:{top:0; right:0; bottom:5px; left:0;} } TAG a { padding:2px 5px; } ACTION hover : a { background-color:#DDD; } // actions are applied to the element they are nested inside } ID abs { position:absolute; background-color:#0F0; text-align:center; padding:10px 0; TAG div { width:200px; left:350px; top:35px; z-index:2; } TAG span { width:200px; left:500px; top:60px; z-index:1; display:block; } } } for num as int, element in zip(range(10), fib()): print "${num + 1} => ${element}"; print ''; gen = i * i for i in range(5); for item in gen: print item print ''; arr = array(gen); for item in arr: print item #include<list> #include<iostream> #include<vector> using namespace std; const int HUMAN = 1; const int COMPUTER = 2; class Nim { public: Nim(int numTokens, int playFirst); ~Nim(); void displayTokens(); bool isOver(); bool find(int token); void makeMove(int token, int newToken1, int newToken2); void undoMove(int addToken, int removeToken1, int removeToken2); int chooseMove(int player, int & bestPile, int & newPile1, int & newPile2); void runComputer(); void runHuman(); int currentPlayer; private: list<int> tokens; }; <body onresize="window.onResize();" onload="window.init();"> <a href="./" id="home_a"> <img id="logoText_img" src="images/logo_text.png" alt="Artist's Circle" /> <img id="logoBack_img" src="images/logo_back.png" alt="Logo" /> </a> </body> (deftemplate ask(slot title) (multislot question)) (deftemplate response(slot title) (slot answer)) (deftemplate info(slot title) (slot true)) (deftemplate solution(slot animal)) (deffacts start-program (ask (title flies) (question Does it fly)) (ask (title lays_eggs) (question Does the animal lay eggs)) (start)) (defrule init ?start <- (start) => (retract ?start) (printout t 'Animal Identification Program' crlf crlf)) def transfer(inputPath, outputFolder, exclude = []): tempPath = outputFolder+splitdrive(inputPath)[1] if(exists(tempPath) == False): os.makedirs(tempPath) filePath = join(outputFolder, splitdrive(inputPath)[1][1:].replace('/', '_').replace('\', '_')) if(char >= '0' && char <= '9' || char == '.' || char == '-' || char == '+') { temp = char; while(next() && (char >= '0' && char <= '9' || char == '.')) temp += char; if(/^(\+|\-)?[\d]+$/.test(temp)) addValue(parseInt(temp)); else if(/^(\+|\-)?[\d]*\.[\d]+$/.test(temp)) addValue(parseFloat(temp)); else throw new Error('Invalid number: '+temp); } try { $data = new HTMLData(); $db = new Database(DB_SERVER, DB_USERNAME, DB_PASSWORD, DB_NAME); include 'data/'.$service.'.data.php'; if(function_exists('serviceMain')) call_user_func('serviceMain', $action); else if(function_exists($action)) call_user_func($action); else throw new ScriptException('undefined action \"'.$action.'\"'); $data->execute(); } catch(UserException $e) { echo $e->toClient(true); // ClientInfo::AddError($e->file, $e->line, 'UserException', $e->message, $e->toString(true)); } catch(Exception $e) { echo $e->toString(true); // ClientInfo::AddError($e->file, $e->line, 'ConnectionException', $e->message, $e->toString(true)); } function onLoad() { var elements1 = [ {n:'linkHandle_div',a:'left'}, {n:'link_div',a:'width',p:'left'}, {n:'content_div',a:'left'}]; initResize('linkHandle_div', elements1); } function getOffsetHTML() { var doc = (document.compatMode && document.compatMode != 'BackCompat') ? document.documentElement : document.body; var style = getStyle(doc); return (temp = parseInt(style.width)) ? Math.round((getWidth() - temp) / 2) : 0; } class Lexer def initialize() @tokens = Hash.new() end def classify(token) if(@tokens[token] == nil) if(token =~/\A[a-zA-Z][a-zA-Z0-9]*\z/) @tokens[token] = "Identifier" elsif(token =~/\A[0-9]+\z/) @tokens[token] = "Integer" elsif(token =~/\A[0-9]*\.[0-9]+\z/) @tokens[token] = "Real" else @tokens[token] = "Error" end else puts "dupliacte token: "+token end end def displayAll() puts "Tokens:" @tokens.each { | key, value | puts key+" is "+value } end end LIBRARY ieee; USE ieee.std_logic_1164.all; USE ieee.std_logic_arith.all; USE ieee.std_logic_signed.all; ENTITY alu IS PORT(inputA, inputB : IN STD_LOGIC_VECTOR(31 DOWNTO 0); aluOp : IN STD_LOGIC_VECTOR(2 DOWNTO 0); result : OUT STD_LOGIC_VECTOR(31 DOWNTO 0); zero : OUT STD_LOGIC); END alu; ARCHITECTURE arch OF alu IS SIGNAL result_temp, result_and, result_or, result_add, result_sub, result_slt : STD_LOGIC_VECTOR(31 DOWNTO 0); BEGIN result_and <= inputA AND inputB; result_or <= inputA OR inputB; result_add <= inputA + inputB; result_sub <= inputA - inputB; result_slt <= "0000000000000000000000000000000" & result_sub(31); WITH aluOp SELECT result_temp <= result_and WHEN "000", result_or WHEN "001", result_add WHEN "010", result_sub WHEN "110", result_slt WHEN "111", X"00000000" WHEN OTHERS; zero <= '1' WHEN (result_temp = 0) ELSE '0'; result <= result_temp; END arch; _number::Parser Float _number = (_neg <|> (try _float) <|> _int) where _neg = do { char '-' ; v <- (try _float <|> _int) ; return (-v) } _float = do { a <- option "0" (many1 digit) ; char '.' ; b <- many1 digit ; return $ read $ a ++ "." ++ b } _int = do { x <- many1 digit ; return $ read $ x } _digits::Parser String _digits = many1 $ satisfy isNumber LCtrl & Up:: Send {PgUp} LCtrl & Down:: Send {PgDn} LCtrl & Left:: Send {Home} LCtrl & Right::Send {End} ^h:: IfWinNotExist WinHugs { Run C:\Program Files\WinHugs\winhugs.exe WinWait WinHugs WinActivate WinHugs Send :cd c:/code/Haskell{Enter} Send :l } else WinActivate WinHugs return (DEFINE (Count numbers) (COND ((NULL? numbers) 0) ((= (CAR numbers) 0) (+ 1 (Count (CDR numbers)))) (ELSE (Count (CDR numbers))) ) ) digit = '0' | '1' | '2' | '3' | '4' | '5' | '6' | '7' | '8' | '9'. hex = 'a' | 'b' | 'c' | 'd' | 'e' | 'f' | digit. number = integer | decimal. integer = digit, {digit}. decimal = digit,{digit},'.',{digit}. word = letter,{letter}. .text .globl __start __start: la $s0, float_a addi $s1, $s0, 16 # number of elements in float_a * 4 + the address of the array add $s2, $s0, $zero # starting point for loop i fori: slt $t0, $s2, $s1 beq $t0, $zero, endi # s2 is the loop index of i * 4, breaks when loop gets to the end of the array addi $s3, $s2, 4 # s3 is the loop index of j * 4 table { border:solid 1px #000; } th { background-color:#EEE; text-align:left; padding:3px 5px 3px 5px; vertical-align:top; white-space:nowrap; empty-cells:show; } td { padding:3px 5px 3px 5px; vertical-align:top; empty-cells:show; } tr.e td { background-color:#FFF; } tr.o td { background-color:#EEE; } tr.h { font-size:20px; } td.c { text-align:center; } td.r { text-align:right; } td.n { white-space:nowrap; } td.m { vertical-align:middle; } table.list_table thead th, table.list_table thead td { font-weight:bold; text-align:left; border-bottom:solid 1px #DDD; } table.form_table tfoot th, table.form_table tfoot td { text-align:center; border-top:solid 1px #DDD; padding-top:10px; } table.form_table tfoot a { padding:2px 5px; font-weight:bold; }